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Be a positive role model

Good mentors are respected by their mentees. A ment

ee can learn a lot from their mentor simply by watc

hing

how their mentor behaves in any particular situatio

n. Good mentors will also look out for experiences,

even create situations in which their mentees can b

ecome involved to learn new things, for

example, providing a look behind the scenes or a gl

impse at how other people live or do things.

This is a drum I loudly beat to everyone I know. Your values are the rudder that steer your life. Positive people do not compromise their values, even when it hurts. Even when there is a personal cost, they stand by their values and honor them.
The most miserable people I know are always complaining about something but they are not standing for anything. Honoring your values takes work but the benefits of living out what you believe pays huge dividends.
Your first step in living your values is to define your top 5 core values.

Make it Matter

Positive people make their tragedies and suffering matter. They have seasons of darkness, pain, and heartache, and yet they keep finding the light, the good, the meaning as they refuse to give into self-pity.
Aristotle said “Suffering becomes beautiful when anyone bears great calamities with cheerfulness, not through insensibility but through greatness of mind.”
Positive people are those who have learned the art of turning their pain into their purpose. They are the eagles who rise above adversity to make it matter.

Story Management

We all have a story that is running through our heads. It is your inner chatter, your personal narrative, and your self-talk that every event and every fact is filtered through before you take an action.
What I find is that people are telling awful, critical stories to themselves. When we look at how we are speaking to our “self” versus the way we say things to others, it is clear that we would never speak the things outloud that we are telling to our “self.”
Take a moment and listen to your story. Does it makes you smile or cringe? Then take steps to change the story if you are not pleased with what you discover.

Smile and Be Grateful

Seriously, just smile more. Smile because you are grateful. You have so much to be thankful for, so smile and name those things. Smile when you walk down the street. Smile as you do the dishes. Smile when you make your coffee in the morning. Smile. Smile at your kids. Smile at your spouse. Smile at your boss. Smile as you encourage others. Smile. Put a reminder on your smart phone to remind you to smile and maybe one of the others above.
Above all else today be grateful and you won’t be able to help but smile!

EXCELLENCE - NOT PERFECTION

Excellence – not perfection

Perfectionism is the breeding ground of negativity. How many things can you actually be perfect in and if you are not perfect, then what? Whose definition of perfection are you using as a standard? If you find yourself saying, “I know, I’m a perfectionist”, I strongly suggest you start changing that story immediately. When you hold yourself to that level of perfection you inadvertently hold others to it as well. That is suffocating!
Excellence is what we can all achieve. Do your best. Celebrate your best. Live your best life. My little slogan is … Be the best you can be today. RIGHT NOW! Be the Best RIGHT NOW!
Anything less than excellence is laziness and/or fear which then what drives us to perfection or trying nothing. Let it go and BE your best. DO your best. LIVE your best life now!